Yep its been 26 days & things are getting tough....
C, She didn't get back to me after the date & eventually txt me saying she wasn't interested. Net dating is very weird, I thought we would see each other again. This makes me think that i must do something wrong on these dates. In "real life" if I go out with a girl and we have a really fun evening the chances are she will want to to see me again. This is not the case with net dates, I never can tell & seem to have judged it wrong yet again.
I am now officially desperate for a shag, I need good old dirty sex. I am just dying to fuck the brains out of some girl. Its a nightmare there are women everywhere at work & I just look at them & think about fucking them. Things that would normally pass through my brain in a few moments now stick for days. I saw a TV clip with a woman swaying her tits about in the street. I can't get it out of my head ! I need tits in my face asap, fuck ! I went 7 months without sex once I can't imagine doing that now.
So the contenders
Internet girl who just blatantly offers me sex all the time (K) has been blown out. She keeps going on about men pissing on her & its just wrong. Apart from anything else if she is as stupid as she seems to be then she won't be using condoms & I do not want some disease or even HIV off some skanky girl. I've deleted her from facebook & will ignore her calls.
So cute girl at work( J), I seem to be developing a crush on her. I don't think about sex with her & this is a sure sign that I like her. She is so innocent & sweet. I just want to grab her & hug her when I see her at work. I know she has trouble with her mum being ill as well & this just makes me want to look after her & protect her. The sad thing is that I just seem to fuck relationships up & make girl miserable so maybe I should just stay the fuck away, this girl has enough problems.....
Cafe girl, is very cute & kinda flirty, I just have to be careful at work. I really can't be seen to be shagging girls left right & centre.
Anyway that will do for the minute. Its the dating thing on thursday so we will see. Must be some chance to get laid, surely !
Tuesday, 13 January 2009
Thursday, 8 January 2009
C The date
So we met yesterday (wednesday). First thing was I walked up to the wrong girl & said hi C ! She looked at me confused & said nothing so I repeated C ? She then firmly shook her head & looked kind of worried. Oh well, that the 1st & hopefully the last time that happens !
So the date, we met & there was the usual nervous conversation about the weather until we got settled & a bit of drink inside us. The things got really easy & we where chatting for a couple of hours. She has very similar interests to me & we talked about travel & music & generally had a laugh. So after a couple of hours we went & had Thai food & shared a bottle of wine.
No snog at the end of the night but all went well & I would think we will see each other again. You never know though, I have called her this evening & left a message, lets see what happens.......
Meanwhile I have another couple of girls mailed me so we'll see what happens there.
Ex GF is still depressed & at work, trying to get my attention, that is so over. Also I've been invited to a speed dating night next week but its for 25-40 year olds, mmmmm thats a high age bracket, then again I do need a shag soon, its been 3 weeks !
So the date, we met & there was the usual nervous conversation about the weather until we got settled & a bit of drink inside us. The things got really easy & we where chatting for a couple of hours. She has very similar interests to me & we talked about travel & music & generally had a laugh. So after a couple of hours we went & had Thai food & shared a bottle of wine.
No snog at the end of the night but all went well & I would think we will see each other again. You never know though, I have called her this evening & left a message, lets see what happens.......
Meanwhile I have another couple of girls mailed me so we'll see what happens there.
Ex GF is still depressed & at work, trying to get my attention, that is so over. Also I've been invited to a speed dating night next week but its for 25-40 year olds, mmmmm thats a high age bracket, then again I do need a shag soon, its been 3 weeks !
Tuesday, 30 December 2008
Date next wednesday with C
So I spoke on the phone with C tonight for the 1st time. Her dating membership is over after 3 months but she dropped me her mail address & we got in touch.
She seems nice & I'm sure we will have plenty to talk about over a drink. We both like theme parks, the same music & were born in the same town. I have seen plenty of pics on facebook and she has seen mine, so we know what we're dealing with.
I will meet her next Wednesday.........
She seems nice & I'm sure we will have plenty to talk about over a drink. We both like theme parks, the same music & were born in the same town. I have seen plenty of pics on facebook and she has seen mine, so we know what we're dealing with.
I will meet her next Wednesday.........
Monday, 29 December 2008
Ratios
I am going to try to work out the ratio of e-mails to relationships.
So this must be broken down into 2 categories.
Girls I mail & girls who mail me. This is because if a girl has mailed you then she is likely to want to take it further. I think its an empowerment thing. They want to feel that they can choose some one off the net & have them if they want them.
The odds are higher if you mail younger/prettier girls wo are obviously bombarded with mails constantly. My technique is to copy paste a 4 line mail & if I can be bothered add a little personal statement in the middle about their profile. Sometimes its just the straight copy/paste mail. OK lets be honest here, I have everything saved, job, work, interests etc. It just makes sense, the 1st few mails are often the same so why not just copy the same blurb from a word document. So that gives me a 3 catogories.
1, Girls who mail me.
2, Girls I mail with a standard no personal opening.
3, Girls I mail with a personalised opening.
Now this is sounding very cynical but time to put some numbers in & update this as we go. I did a batch of un-personalised mails the other day so lets see what I got back from that, these where young pretty girls & it was Christmas time when people are with friends & family not worrying about internet dating but anyway.
I sent 13 emails to young 23 - 26 pretty girls, out of these only
4 have been read (some people have not subscribed & can't read mail until they pay up.
1 has replied.
So we are at 13 to one so far but I have probably only put an hour of effort into this & got the attention of a good looking young lady. So lets follow this up & try to real her in.............
30/12/08 I have mailed her back, its too early to ask her out & I'm not sure if I really like her but she is 24 & I like young girls.
So this must be broken down into 2 categories.
Girls I mail & girls who mail me. This is because if a girl has mailed you then she is likely to want to take it further. I think its an empowerment thing. They want to feel that they can choose some one off the net & have them if they want them.
The odds are higher if you mail younger/prettier girls wo are obviously bombarded with mails constantly. My technique is to copy paste a 4 line mail & if I can be bothered add a little personal statement in the middle about their profile. Sometimes its just the straight copy/paste mail. OK lets be honest here, I have everything saved, job, work, interests etc. It just makes sense, the 1st few mails are often the same so why not just copy the same blurb from a word document. So that gives me a 3 catogories.
1, Girls who mail me.
2, Girls I mail with a standard no personal opening.
3, Girls I mail with a personalised opening.
Now this is sounding very cynical but time to put some numbers in & update this as we go. I did a batch of un-personalised mails the other day so lets see what I got back from that, these where young pretty girls & it was Christmas time when people are with friends & family not worrying about internet dating but anyway.
I sent 13 emails to young 23 - 26 pretty girls, out of these only
4 have been read (some people have not subscribed & can't read mail until they pay up.
1 has replied.
So we are at 13 to one so far but I have probably only put an hour of effort into this & got the attention of a good looking young lady. So lets follow this up & try to real her in.............
30/12/08 I have mailed her back, its too early to ask her out & I'm not sure if I really like her but she is 24 & I like young girls.
The friends ex visits
So, she comes round & we drink, smoke weed, watch DVD's & listen to music. Basically have the best time. It couldn't have been more fun. She says some thing about us being each others back up plan, "It wouldn't be that bad at all" she says. This makes me think that she still has feelings.
I want her to stay, but only for the night, I am unable to commit to this girl for some reason. We tried last year & for a while we where in love & it was great, then it just fizzled out. I blame her ex partly, it is weird lying next to your mates ex gf but I don't think that was it entirely.
She doesn't look like the sort of girl I dream of being with.
Fuck is that it !
Is the reason behind my lack of commitment simply that I do not envisage being with a girl like her in the future. I guess it is, maybe all men have this certain idea about the sort of woman they will end up with.
I can't help but look at women & wonder what they would be like as mothers & how our lives might be in the future. This is unfortunately where she falls down again. She is very young acting & pretty needy, this is a massive turn off. A classic daddies girl who has been in relationships all her life. This girl is fun fun fun but ultimately needs the support of a man.
So unfortunately she does not fit my idea about what my long term partner/wife will be like.
The next day I pick her up & drop her off at her boyfriends on the way to my friend. He is now jealous & a little short (well he is a short ass with a funny walk). I guess I should care, but really I get off on this sort of power. He doesn't really like her anyway so I don't care too much about upsetting him slightly. Anyway, nothing has happened between us, yet.........
On a very eggs/basket note. I called a new net girl C & got answer phone, she txt back later saying she will call, we will see.
I want her to stay, but only for the night, I am unable to commit to this girl for some reason. We tried last year & for a while we where in love & it was great, then it just fizzled out. I blame her ex partly, it is weird lying next to your mates ex gf but I don't think that was it entirely.
She doesn't look like the sort of girl I dream of being with.
Fuck is that it !
Is the reason behind my lack of commitment simply that I do not envisage being with a girl like her in the future. I guess it is, maybe all men have this certain idea about the sort of woman they will end up with.
I can't help but look at women & wonder what they would be like as mothers & how our lives might be in the future. This is unfortunately where she falls down again. She is very young acting & pretty needy, this is a massive turn off. A classic daddies girl who has been in relationships all her life. This girl is fun fun fun but ultimately needs the support of a man.
So unfortunately she does not fit my idea about what my long term partner/wife will be like.
The next day I pick her up & drop her off at her boyfriends on the way to my friend. He is now jealous & a little short (well he is a short ass with a funny walk). I guess I should care, but really I get off on this sort of power. He doesn't really like her anyway so I don't care too much about upsetting him slightly. Anyway, nothing has happened between us, yet.........
On a very eggs/basket note. I called a new net girl C & got answer phone, she txt back later saying she will call, we will see.
Sunday, 28 December 2008
The latest girl friend
So lets try & keep this very short
We met on a work trip abroad
She complimented me loads
We fell for each other on face book chat
This was a real girl not some internet date
Went out for a drink (her doing)
Shagged
Started seeing each other
It was great but
She was engaged to be married in 8 months (dress bought, venue booked).
Anyway, things where great until…..
She left him
Things went crap
I though it was because of the split but it wasn't..........
She was continually depressed & negative after the split. Apparently I was the only thing that had made her happy ever, until they split. After the split I was given the boyfriend role. She would complain about me & tell me how pissed off she was. In my opinion all she needed was someone to have an affair with to cheer her up, she even hinted this might happen.
It became extremely obvious that she liked to drink a bit too much and had a life long history of depression. We had numerous fallouts & I couldn't do anything right. I was convinced I was in love with her & she was "The one, no 2". Things came to a head when after hearing about my less than perfect upbringing she said she would "spit in my parents face" if they ever met.
This was basically inexcusable so I dumped her & went on holiday. I missed her & after a month we tried again. We dated 4 times, she was miserable throughout. After my work party she complained non stop about the lack of taxis & made my life miserable for 2 hours while we tried to get home. We are not talking about a little moan here, we are talking 2 hours of constant drunken f'ing & binding.
I decided to dump her then. It took a few more dates but sure enough she had to go. I heard a familiar excuse. I was over sensitive, this is what a previous girl friend used to tell me. Well if getting offended about people threatening to spit in your parents face means you're over sensitive then put me at the top of the list.
Strange, for a few weeks I really though she was it, we would have babies & be happy ever after. This was not lust, it was love she was it, I had found the one !
6 months later I nearly forgot to add it to the blog.
Next!
We met on a work trip abroad
She complimented me loads
We fell for each other on face book chat
This was a real girl not some internet date
Went out for a drink (her doing)
Shagged
Started seeing each other
It was great but
She was engaged to be married in 8 months (dress bought, venue booked).
Anyway, things where great until…..
She left him
Things went crap
I though it was because of the split but it wasn't..........
She was continually depressed & negative after the split. Apparently I was the only thing that had made her happy ever, until they split. After the split I was given the boyfriend role. She would complain about me & tell me how pissed off she was. In my opinion all she needed was someone to have an affair with to cheer her up, she even hinted this might happen.
It became extremely obvious that she liked to drink a bit too much and had a life long history of depression. We had numerous fallouts & I couldn't do anything right. I was convinced I was in love with her & she was "The one, no 2". Things came to a head when after hearing about my less than perfect upbringing she said she would "spit in my parents face" if they ever met.
This was basically inexcusable so I dumped her & went on holiday. I missed her & after a month we tried again. We dated 4 times, she was miserable throughout. After my work party she complained non stop about the lack of taxis & made my life miserable for 2 hours while we tried to get home. We are not talking about a little moan here, we are talking 2 hours of constant drunken f'ing & binding.
I decided to dump her then. It took a few more dates but sure enough she had to go. I heard a familiar excuse. I was over sensitive, this is what a previous girl friend used to tell me. Well if getting offended about people threatening to spit in your parents face means you're over sensitive then put me at the top of the list.
Strange, for a few weeks I really though she was it, we would have babies & be happy ever after. This was not lust, it was love she was it, I had found the one !
6 months later I nearly forgot to add it to the blog.
Next!
Saturday, 27 December 2008
Net dating rules
Well I just found this
http://ezinearticles.com/?10-Online-Dating-Rules-You-Cannot-Afford-To-Break-If-You-Want-To-Avoid-Bad-Guys-Online&id=1011119
This is pretty scary stuff ! If there are any women psycho enough to come to my work & ask for me & drive by my house then I definitely do not want to meet them !
These all seem a bit women orientated so lets lay down some similar rules.
1, Never never arrange a meet without seeing some (the more the better) pictures.
2, Try to speak to them on the phone once. Its so much nicer going to meet some one who you know you can have a conversation with & you might even fancy them from the sound of their voice, but.........
3, Never get over involved be it by mail, txt or phone. Its a total waste of time. the only way to work out if you like some one is to meet them.
4, Avoid clingy women like the plague, if she prints a pic of you & sticks it on her wall before you meet, don't ! (man I regret that).
5, Don't travel too far, Now you may think this is cynical but if you go miles out of your way for a date (my record is about 200 miles) then you will be pretty disappointed if it goes wrong. I have yet to work out the ratios but its fair to say that most dates are a one off.
6, Do not meet up with older women in the hope they look young. OK I know one exception to this rule, she is 39 but could honestly pass for 25. In the main though people look their age even if they do look young in that special photo.
7, If you meet a girl & she is good looking but a pain in the ass do yourself a favour and move on. This is man's greatest weakness, the ability to be pussy whipped. My self and friends have put up with ridiculous behaviour from good looking women in the hope of getting laid. Have some self respect!
http://ezinearticles.com/?10-Online-Dating-Rules-You-Cannot-Afford-To-Break-If-You-Want-To-Avoid-Bad-Guys-Online&id=1011119
This is pretty scary stuff ! If there are any women psycho enough to come to my work & ask for me & drive by my house then I definitely do not want to meet them !
These all seem a bit women orientated so lets lay down some similar rules.
1, Never never arrange a meet without seeing some (the more the better) pictures.
2, Try to speak to them on the phone once. Its so much nicer going to meet some one who you know you can have a conversation with & you might even fancy them from the sound of their voice, but.........
3, Never get over involved be it by mail, txt or phone. Its a total waste of time. the only way to work out if you like some one is to meet them.
4, Avoid clingy women like the plague, if she prints a pic of you & sticks it on her wall before you meet, don't ! (man I regret that).
5, Don't travel too far, Now you may think this is cynical but if you go miles out of your way for a date (my record is about 200 miles) then you will be pretty disappointed if it goes wrong. I have yet to work out the ratios but its fair to say that most dates are a one off.
6, Do not meet up with older women in the hope they look young. OK I know one exception to this rule, she is 39 but could honestly pass for 25. In the main though people look their age even if they do look young in that special photo.
7, If you meet a girl & she is good looking but a pain in the ass do yourself a favour and move on. This is man's greatest weakness, the ability to be pussy whipped. My self and friends have put up with ridiculous behaviour from good looking women in the hope of getting laid. Have some self respect!
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