So I spoke on the phone with C tonight for the 1st time. Her dating membership is over after 3 months but she dropped me her mail address & we got in touch.
She seems nice & I'm sure we will have plenty to talk about over a drink. We both like theme parks, the same music & were born in the same town. I have seen plenty of pics on facebook and she has seen mine, so we know what we're dealing with.
I will meet her next Wednesday.........
Tuesday 30 December 2008
Monday 29 December 2008
Ratios
I am going to try to work out the ratio of e-mails to relationships.
So this must be broken down into 2 categories.
Girls I mail & girls who mail me. This is because if a girl has mailed you then she is likely to want to take it further. I think its an empowerment thing. They want to feel that they can choose some one off the net & have them if they want them.
The odds are higher if you mail younger/prettier girls wo are obviously bombarded with mails constantly. My technique is to copy paste a 4 line mail & if I can be bothered add a little personal statement in the middle about their profile. Sometimes its just the straight copy/paste mail. OK lets be honest here, I have everything saved, job, work, interests etc. It just makes sense, the 1st few mails are often the same so why not just copy the same blurb from a word document. So that gives me a 3 catogories.
1, Girls who mail me.
2, Girls I mail with a standard no personal opening.
3, Girls I mail with a personalised opening.
Now this is sounding very cynical but time to put some numbers in & update this as we go. I did a batch of un-personalised mails the other day so lets see what I got back from that, these where young pretty girls & it was Christmas time when people are with friends & family not worrying about internet dating but anyway.
I sent 13 emails to young 23 - 26 pretty girls, out of these only
4 have been read (some people have not subscribed & can't read mail until they pay up.
1 has replied.
So we are at 13 to one so far but I have probably only put an hour of effort into this & got the attention of a good looking young lady. So lets follow this up & try to real her in.............
30/12/08 I have mailed her back, its too early to ask her out & I'm not sure if I really like her but she is 24 & I like young girls.
So this must be broken down into 2 categories.
Girls I mail & girls who mail me. This is because if a girl has mailed you then she is likely to want to take it further. I think its an empowerment thing. They want to feel that they can choose some one off the net & have them if they want them.
The odds are higher if you mail younger/prettier girls wo are obviously bombarded with mails constantly. My technique is to copy paste a 4 line mail & if I can be bothered add a little personal statement in the middle about their profile. Sometimes its just the straight copy/paste mail. OK lets be honest here, I have everything saved, job, work, interests etc. It just makes sense, the 1st few mails are often the same so why not just copy the same blurb from a word document. So that gives me a 3 catogories.
1, Girls who mail me.
2, Girls I mail with a standard no personal opening.
3, Girls I mail with a personalised opening.
Now this is sounding very cynical but time to put some numbers in & update this as we go. I did a batch of un-personalised mails the other day so lets see what I got back from that, these where young pretty girls & it was Christmas time when people are with friends & family not worrying about internet dating but anyway.
I sent 13 emails to young 23 - 26 pretty girls, out of these only
4 have been read (some people have not subscribed & can't read mail until they pay up.
1 has replied.
So we are at 13 to one so far but I have probably only put an hour of effort into this & got the attention of a good looking young lady. So lets follow this up & try to real her in.............
30/12/08 I have mailed her back, its too early to ask her out & I'm not sure if I really like her but she is 24 & I like young girls.
The friends ex visits
So, she comes round & we drink, smoke weed, watch DVD's & listen to music. Basically have the best time. It couldn't have been more fun. She says some thing about us being each others back up plan, "It wouldn't be that bad at all" she says. This makes me think that she still has feelings.
I want her to stay, but only for the night, I am unable to commit to this girl for some reason. We tried last year & for a while we where in love & it was great, then it just fizzled out. I blame her ex partly, it is weird lying next to your mates ex gf but I don't think that was it entirely.
She doesn't look like the sort of girl I dream of being with.
Fuck is that it !
Is the reason behind my lack of commitment simply that I do not envisage being with a girl like her in the future. I guess it is, maybe all men have this certain idea about the sort of woman they will end up with.
I can't help but look at women & wonder what they would be like as mothers & how our lives might be in the future. This is unfortunately where she falls down again. She is very young acting & pretty needy, this is a massive turn off. A classic daddies girl who has been in relationships all her life. This girl is fun fun fun but ultimately needs the support of a man.
So unfortunately she does not fit my idea about what my long term partner/wife will be like.
The next day I pick her up & drop her off at her boyfriends on the way to my friend. He is now jealous & a little short (well he is a short ass with a funny walk). I guess I should care, but really I get off on this sort of power. He doesn't really like her anyway so I don't care too much about upsetting him slightly. Anyway, nothing has happened between us, yet.........
On a very eggs/basket note. I called a new net girl C & got answer phone, she txt back later saying she will call, we will see.
I want her to stay, but only for the night, I am unable to commit to this girl for some reason. We tried last year & for a while we where in love & it was great, then it just fizzled out. I blame her ex partly, it is weird lying next to your mates ex gf but I don't think that was it entirely.
She doesn't look like the sort of girl I dream of being with.
Fuck is that it !
Is the reason behind my lack of commitment simply that I do not envisage being with a girl like her in the future. I guess it is, maybe all men have this certain idea about the sort of woman they will end up with.
I can't help but look at women & wonder what they would be like as mothers & how our lives might be in the future. This is unfortunately where she falls down again. She is very young acting & pretty needy, this is a massive turn off. A classic daddies girl who has been in relationships all her life. This girl is fun fun fun but ultimately needs the support of a man.
So unfortunately she does not fit my idea about what my long term partner/wife will be like.
The next day I pick her up & drop her off at her boyfriends on the way to my friend. He is now jealous & a little short (well he is a short ass with a funny walk). I guess I should care, but really I get off on this sort of power. He doesn't really like her anyway so I don't care too much about upsetting him slightly. Anyway, nothing has happened between us, yet.........
On a very eggs/basket note. I called a new net girl C & got answer phone, she txt back later saying she will call, we will see.
Sunday 28 December 2008
The latest girl friend
So lets try & keep this very short
We met on a work trip abroad
She complimented me loads
We fell for each other on face book chat
This was a real girl not some internet date
Went out for a drink (her doing)
Shagged
Started seeing each other
It was great but
She was engaged to be married in 8 months (dress bought, venue booked).
Anyway, things where great until…..
She left him
Things went crap
I though it was because of the split but it wasn't..........
She was continually depressed & negative after the split. Apparently I was the only thing that had made her happy ever, until they split. After the split I was given the boyfriend role. She would complain about me & tell me how pissed off she was. In my opinion all she needed was someone to have an affair with to cheer her up, she even hinted this might happen.
It became extremely obvious that she liked to drink a bit too much and had a life long history of depression. We had numerous fallouts & I couldn't do anything right. I was convinced I was in love with her & she was "The one, no 2". Things came to a head when after hearing about my less than perfect upbringing she said she would "spit in my parents face" if they ever met.
This was basically inexcusable so I dumped her & went on holiday. I missed her & after a month we tried again. We dated 4 times, she was miserable throughout. After my work party she complained non stop about the lack of taxis & made my life miserable for 2 hours while we tried to get home. We are not talking about a little moan here, we are talking 2 hours of constant drunken f'ing & binding.
I decided to dump her then. It took a few more dates but sure enough she had to go. I heard a familiar excuse. I was over sensitive, this is what a previous girl friend used to tell me. Well if getting offended about people threatening to spit in your parents face means you're over sensitive then put me at the top of the list.
Strange, for a few weeks I really though she was it, we would have babies & be happy ever after. This was not lust, it was love she was it, I had found the one !
6 months later I nearly forgot to add it to the blog.
Next!
We met on a work trip abroad
She complimented me loads
We fell for each other on face book chat
This was a real girl not some internet date
Went out for a drink (her doing)
Shagged
Started seeing each other
It was great but
She was engaged to be married in 8 months (dress bought, venue booked).
Anyway, things where great until…..
She left him
Things went crap
I though it was because of the split but it wasn't..........
She was continually depressed & negative after the split. Apparently I was the only thing that had made her happy ever, until they split. After the split I was given the boyfriend role. She would complain about me & tell me how pissed off she was. In my opinion all she needed was someone to have an affair with to cheer her up, she even hinted this might happen.
It became extremely obvious that she liked to drink a bit too much and had a life long history of depression. We had numerous fallouts & I couldn't do anything right. I was convinced I was in love with her & she was "The one, no 2". Things came to a head when after hearing about my less than perfect upbringing she said she would "spit in my parents face" if they ever met.
This was basically inexcusable so I dumped her & went on holiday. I missed her & after a month we tried again. We dated 4 times, she was miserable throughout. After my work party she complained non stop about the lack of taxis & made my life miserable for 2 hours while we tried to get home. We are not talking about a little moan here, we are talking 2 hours of constant drunken f'ing & binding.
I decided to dump her then. It took a few more dates but sure enough she had to go. I heard a familiar excuse. I was over sensitive, this is what a previous girl friend used to tell me. Well if getting offended about people threatening to spit in your parents face means you're over sensitive then put me at the top of the list.
Strange, for a few weeks I really though she was it, we would have babies & be happy ever after. This was not lust, it was love she was it, I had found the one !
6 months later I nearly forgot to add it to the blog.
Next!
Saturday 27 December 2008
Net dating rules
Well I just found this
http://ezinearticles.com/?10-Online-Dating-Rules-You-Cannot-Afford-To-Break-If-You-Want-To-Avoid-Bad-Guys-Online&id=1011119
This is pretty scary stuff ! If there are any women psycho enough to come to my work & ask for me & drive by my house then I definitely do not want to meet them !
These all seem a bit women orientated so lets lay down some similar rules.
1, Never never arrange a meet without seeing some (the more the better) pictures.
2, Try to speak to them on the phone once. Its so much nicer going to meet some one who you know you can have a conversation with & you might even fancy them from the sound of their voice, but.........
3, Never get over involved be it by mail, txt or phone. Its a total waste of time. the only way to work out if you like some one is to meet them.
4, Avoid clingy women like the plague, if she prints a pic of you & sticks it on her wall before you meet, don't ! (man I regret that).
5, Don't travel too far, Now you may think this is cynical but if you go miles out of your way for a date (my record is about 200 miles) then you will be pretty disappointed if it goes wrong. I have yet to work out the ratios but its fair to say that most dates are a one off.
6, Do not meet up with older women in the hope they look young. OK I know one exception to this rule, she is 39 but could honestly pass for 25. In the main though people look their age even if they do look young in that special photo.
7, If you meet a girl & she is good looking but a pain in the ass do yourself a favour and move on. This is man's greatest weakness, the ability to be pussy whipped. My self and friends have put up with ridiculous behaviour from good looking women in the hope of getting laid. Have some self respect!
http://ezinearticles.com/?10-Online-Dating-Rules-You-Cannot-Afford-To-Break-If-You-Want-To-Avoid-Bad-Guys-Online&id=1011119
This is pretty scary stuff ! If there are any women psycho enough to come to my work & ask for me & drive by my house then I definitely do not want to meet them !
These all seem a bit women orientated so lets lay down some similar rules.
1, Never never arrange a meet without seeing some (the more the better) pictures.
2, Try to speak to them on the phone once. Its so much nicer going to meet some one who you know you can have a conversation with & you might even fancy them from the sound of their voice, but.........
3, Never get over involved be it by mail, txt or phone. Its a total waste of time. the only way to work out if you like some one is to meet them.
4, Avoid clingy women like the plague, if she prints a pic of you & sticks it on her wall before you meet, don't ! (man I regret that).
5, Don't travel too far, Now you may think this is cynical but if you go miles out of your way for a date (my record is about 200 miles) then you will be pretty disappointed if it goes wrong. I have yet to work out the ratios but its fair to say that most dates are a one off.
6, Do not meet up with older women in the hope they look young. OK I know one exception to this rule, she is 39 but could honestly pass for 25. In the main though people look their age even if they do look young in that special photo.
7, If you meet a girl & she is good looking but a pain in the ass do yourself a favour and move on. This is man's greatest weakness, the ability to be pussy whipped. My self and friends have put up with ridiculous behaviour from good looking women in the hope of getting laid. Have some self respect!
Late potentials on a saturday night.
I just got a mail from a girl I met on a dating website. She has very similar interests & is pretty good looking. I will call her tomorrow. The problem with net dating is no matter how much you might get on online, you may hate each other in the flesh. It is for this reason that rule 2 must be obeyed "never get over involved before you meet" this may be by phone , mail or dreams......
Also, errr oh yes. I got a reply from a young blonde 24 year old. No I think there is about a 1 in 30 mail to shag ratio. This doesn't stop me from wondering if after a few mails & possibly dates I could be sharing a bed with a relative stranger, what did people do before the internet ?
Also, errr oh yes. I got a reply from a young blonde 24 year old. No I think there is about a 1 in 30 mail to shag ratio. This doesn't stop me from wondering if after a few mails & possibly dates I could be sharing a bed with a relative stranger, what did people do before the internet ?
Who's next (The contenders)
The friends ex, we have & we will again. Its great, we get on, have fun & fancy each other. We gave it a go once but it didn't really work so we moved on. the chemistry is always there & she loves flirting with me. I love fucking her.
Cafe girl, cute young & friendly. Once offered to go out with me & drink vodka (a sure sign ?).
Heels at work, So she comes over & says to me " do you like my heels" (they are about 4") I tell her to put them away. She says "these aren't the high ones, I save them fro the bedroom". On another occasion I tell her we will never shag, she says she isn't so sure & flirts with me daily.
Cute & foreign, she reminds me of "the one I loved" she is so cute & happy but works with me daily. If I here her speak Spanish much more I may crack
Facebook girl, I hope I can stay away but she has sent me pics of her pussy & is offering sex. Just the slightest bit of "I know you not like that with everyone" & I will be doing what ever I want to her. She is stupid enough to think this may lead to a relationship, silly girl..............
Cafe girl, cute young & friendly. Once offered to go out with me & drink vodka (a sure sign ?).
Heels at work, So she comes over & says to me " do you like my heels" (they are about 4") I tell her to put them away. She says "these aren't the high ones, I save them fro the bedroom". On another occasion I tell her we will never shag, she says she isn't so sure & flirts with me daily.
Cute & foreign, she reminds me of "the one I loved" she is so cute & happy but works with me daily. If I here her speak Spanish much more I may crack
Facebook girl, I hope I can stay away but she has sent me pics of her pussy & is offering sex. Just the slightest bit of "I know you not like that with everyone" & I will be doing what ever I want to her. She is stupid enough to think this may lead to a relationship, silly girl..............
Ways of getting laid.........
1, The internet, yes like any sensible young chap I do internet dating. This can lead to sex, boredom or disappointment. Net dating will test your confidence to the edge. Its is unlike normal life with a whole new set of rules. Facebook is offering me one easy shag at present. I don't like her, think she is ugly, slightly unbalanced & bordering on being a slag. I may shag her if I get desperate/horny enough.
2, Work, there are so many 50 ? good looking girls at my work. The work shag count stands at 2 in my present job. 1 shag 1 relationship but there may be more.
3, Female friends, Yes I have shagged them & one young lady is close to being shagged again.
4, Randoms met through day to day life. I don't go out with male firends drinking that much & hardly ever to late clubs etc so this is unlikely. But you never know.......
2, Work, there are so many 50 ? good looking girls at my work. The work shag count stands at 2 in my present job. 1 shag 1 relationship but there may be more.
3, Female friends, Yes I have shagged them & one young lady is close to being shagged again.
4, Randoms met through day to day life. I don't go out with male firends drinking that much & hardly ever to late clubs etc so this is unlikely. But you never know.......
The facts
I am male 35, 6'2" 14 stone & fairly good looking, I think I am normal but you never really know. I am single & have been on & off for the last 6 years. This means I spend a large part of my time in the pursuit of 3 things. love, sex, happiness. What order of importance these are in varies from day to day so lets have a look.
Love...
I was in love when I was 20, completely totally 100% sit & smile to yourself in love. I dumped her once & later she dumped me & broke my heart. I have felt love a few times since & had a rather full on experience last summer but I tell myself that this doesn't compare to "the real thing".
Sex...
Well its been 8 days & I feel calm, of course this will change if I go cold turkey. In the past I have shagged work colleagues, friends, friends ex girlfriends (once but dam she's great), ugly girls, pretty girls, older 40 ish & younger 20 ish. We are in the mid to upper 20's number wise. I am not fussed with numbers & ready to settle down but I do like sex & dirty too you name it I love it but no toilet stuff thanks.............
Happiness
I am happy now ! this is good thing & has not allways been the case. I have freinds, family & a good job. I have money, interests & a positive outlook. I have no woman but I have happiness, long may it continue...........
The point
So the point of this ? To document a year of dating & maybe more, here I will lay the facts on the screen. I therapeutic diary of mans inner mind.
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